With that attitude, you’ll stay “single” forever, I told my friend after she uttered so many angry curses at the men’s expense, that the truck could be loaded. What are YOU doing to change something? Have you ever wondered where YOU are wrong when it comes to relationships? After this, those same curses fell on me and I was declared a defender of men and a traitor of holy female hatred. And I was left to think: why are the girls so angry?

I mean, I also suffered and it hurt and I loved when it was required and when it wasn’t, but somehow I kept the presence of common sense and continued to believe – men, relationships, life. Suddenly, my “single” friends believe only contempt, thinking that none of the males deserves attention… Is that true or are they are just too spoiled and unprepared for love?

I began to unwind the tape and remember all the relationships, from the banal to the serious ones, which threw me into a love coma several times, from which I barely woke up. Mutilated for some emotion, but I still woke up. Do you know what I concluded? That my friends only have a better memory than me! And that there are a few things we should be angry about that you will never understand until we tell you. Well, here, in the name of the female gender, we are angry because…

…You are irresponsible

It’s not about how you are towards friends, work or education. It’s all about us! At the beginning of the relationship, we are especially spoiled, and we expect all the attention of this world. This, of course, does not abate as long as that connection exists, but later we are more willing to compromise. That is why it will never be clear to us why you are then, at the very beginning, the most irresponsible, the most forgetful and the most careless.

It is no wonder that today relationships last for a week and end even before they started. We follow the rules of the “hot-cold” game, but if you don’t respect any things, you won’t have many opportunities to play. The list of these “few things” includes very banal but very important actions, such as:

replying to messages as soon as she sends you SMS, answering on time (when you said you would call), seeing each other often, tactile exchange of tenderness (not just having sex in a hurry), patience for her problems at work or college, going out, meeting friends and the like… That is the responsibility towards the relationship we are looking for.

…You can’t break up

You are not doing well, you have realized that the relationship you are in has no future. OK, quite understandable. But we will never understand why you just run away like cowards, turn off the phone or reject calls and disappear from the face of the Earth, to make us think you don’t want to see each other. Naturally, we will call you if you do not answer, and we will ask others for you if you are nowhere to be found.

Not because we are boring and pushy, but because it’s a natural reaction to your stupid behaviour. In a man’s head, a woman’s hysteria is possible when she mentions a breakup, so it’s easier to “get lost” than to face her. You are wrong here! Honour the exceptions, which really make a mess (although you chose them), but most women will more normally accept a fair break-up face to face than your disappearance.

…You don’t know what you want

Well, when did you get lost and let us know that it was the end, what the hell is forcing you to reappear in our lives?! Do I sound outraged? Well, believe me, the girl you’ve been thinking about for days probably has a repertoire of “returns” ready for you, because of what a member of your gender did to her, maybe decades before you met. Calls, messages and socializing?

After love, there is not enough space left for friendship, under whose flag most girls agree to see their ex, but hoping that at some point they will become present again, and maybe even future. I can’t single out a girl who at least once in her life did not go through torture “neither with you nor without you”. You know very well what I’m talking about – when you are alone and without “combinations”, you return to a safe base.

When phone numbers are dialled or glances are exchanged, then you are gone again and you do not answer. And so until the last atoms of love and strength are exhausted, or, simply, they close that door behind us forever… One piece of advice: when you break up, let it be a thoughtful decision and remain a gentleman until the end. And not something else, like in an old song…

…You lie so predictably

I could never get over the lies. They always stung me and I couldn’t see myself next to that person anymore. But when I remember what lies some of my friends and acquaintances went through, I get angry. And because of their blind belief, but also because of the facts that various men covered up.

For example, where did you get the idea to hide your marriage and children? Just because you took off your wedding ring does not mean that you have freed yourself from the vows you gave to someone, least of all the obligations you have towards your family. For you, the relationship is an easy flirtation and an affair that will pass, but for the other side, maybe you are the one, and by finding out that you are married and have children, you cause serious damage to one person’s emotional life.

Or where do you get the right to maintain parallel connections? How do you think that girl will feel when she finds out that for years (and nothing is easier when it comes to months) you had another person next to her to whom you also talked, promised, and yes, in the end, you lied? Not all men are like that, you will say. Of course not! And thank God for that! Only the next time she is distrustful of you, checks on you and is oversensitive – ask yourself what kind of lie she believed and because of what mistake in the past your relationship suffers in the present.

…Mom is always right

There is a phenomenon of a specific mother-son relationship for centuries and on all meridians, so rarely does a daughter-in-law reach a star without thorns. We are angry that you do not understand that at some point your family becomes a wife and children, and your mother can retire, so to speak.

We do not ask you to forget it, ignore it, neglect it. We are just asking for our right to be the first and to live in the world “as mom says”. According to some research, every third marriage ends in divorce, and one of the causes is the unusually close relationship between mother and son. I must especially draw your attention to the mother-in-law’s perfidious game: she carefully keeps remarks, transfers and other stings for the moment when you are not present.

So your wife loses the opportunity to appeal, because — of course — you won’t trust her! The road to marital hell is often paved with your mother’s best intentions. The sooner you understand that, the better your marriage will be.

…You live in complexes

It’s time to realize – it’s the 21st century and it’s definitely over slavery. I shudder even as I mention them, but purely so that they are not forgotten: the woman in the kitchen, the man at work; a man earns more than a woman; a woman is for the house and children, a man to party and get drunk; the beating came out of heaven – and many others.

Complexes will only ruin your relationship, and you won’t prove anything with your outdated macho attitude. Enjoy that your girlfriend is successful and even earns more than you. Prepare lunch freely for two, and go to the tavern together – let her shatter the crystal glasses too. If you do not believe in all of that, check it on any Dating Site.