This is, in general, a universal topic, although men are more often stuck in this problem than girls. If you’ve ever heard something like the saying, “I love you like a brother” or “I don’t want to ruin what we have” from a girl who has grown close to your heart, that in translation may mean that she likes you, but you don’t attract her as a man. So sexual.
What then?
Just because you’re not attracted to a girl or a person doesn’t mean you’re not attractive at all. This means that you need to accept that you are not attracted only to that one person, who you care about at that moment. The sooner you accept that the sooner you will move towards a new solution. Don’t let this relationship frustrate you.
When we like someone very much, and they put us in that hated zone of friendship, then what do we do? We fix that person, and we want to win him over at any cost. And that is, realistically, completely unnecessary and a waste of time. If you are alone, you do what singles do. Therefore, you should continue to date other women, correspond with them, and try to find someone who will suit you on all grounds.
Where is the solution?
The sooner you give up the idea of stubbornly conquering the person who put you in the friendship zone, the sooner you will find someone dearer and sweeter, someone, who will adore you and love you to heaven. Naturally, if you are kind to that person.
In addition, there is a distinct possibility that something in the past happened between you. For example, when she drank a little or when that person was sad, and it was you who found yourself there to encourage her and bring her back to life. You may have even kissed, so whenever you walk away from each other, she entices you to come back to her. You should never build a story from this because there is nothing from that story.
When you comprehend this, then you accept it. Accept that you are just friends and don’t be angry and pathetic. Keep lying, keep having fun. But not with her, but with other women. Guys who stay in relationships like this don’t look cool And it doesn’t go in that direction if I just do this or that – I’ll win it, they’ll understand. If I get the chance, they’ll see how well we match. But, it goes in the opposite direction – you will remain my friend forever.
Why is it so?
Because women put men in a friendly zone, what they take for granted. She can play a male role in her life, but in the end, it all comes down to being her master of everything that goes wrong with her — from the car to the fridge — and as a reward, you get a slap on the cheek. Eventually to go to dinner with you, to go to parties and to fill her time when she is alone, and in the end, you don’t get what you want.
Ultimately, when you accept that you are just friends, you have to change something. Realistically, you can’t live off a kiss on the cheek. And so many women want to be with you and only desire you. You can’t do the same thing all the time and expect a different result.
If that person, on the other hand, is so close to your heart, and whatever you do does not give results, what is left for you? Getaway. When you are in contact with her, try to pretend that you are a little bored. In doing so, observe her behaviour, how will she react, will she make a “better offer”? Will she work harder around you? Or better yet, keep seeing someone else, try to make some other dates, and when that special and special one in your life invites you to go somewhere, tell her you don’t have time because you have dates with another girl.
To someone who does not give you what you want and what you need, do not give the attention she expects from you, “brotherly” love, time and even money.
What if it entices you?
If she calls you to take her out to dinner, don’t do it because it’s just not permitted for you to treat someone like your girlfriend without her treating you exclusively as a friend. The problem is that you will stay in that zone forever, the zone of friendship, and it will never have any need to present you with a more attractive offer than the existing one.
Finally, you need to know that it is necessary to be direct and specific, to tell her what you want and what you expect from her. If she keeps hanging out with you, you tell her you don’t want to be just friends with her. You need to tell her that you want something more, and if she doesn’t want it — for whatever reason — that friendship won’t work.
Perseverance and stubbornness
Since women know how to be more persistent than men, every time she calls you or leaves you a message, be wise and ask her if she is seducing you? Do you want to come to me and seduce me? And she still insists that you’re just friends. In that case, you will have to work hard and find something better. Be aware that there is a large number of wonderful women who are waiting for someone like you. The fact that the one you intended for you won’t have anything more than a friendship, it’s just your ego. Don’t deal with the ego. There are so many nicer and better things than the ego that you can deal with in life.