Many people are guided by the motto “once lived” in every segment of life. These are the ones who most often decide on various adventures, be it life, business, love god whatever. But let’s focus on love, or more precisely sex.

Many men and women do not dare to try what they have imagined, like a threesome. We are certain this is a fantasy that is spinning in the minds of many, but only a few manage to turn their imagination into reality.

If you are among them, here is what you need to recognize before embarking on an adventure.

How will this affect your relationship?

A threesome can certainly spice up your love life, but it can also introduce discomfort and tension. That is why it is important you do not make such a decision in a hurry, but that you plan it in advance. One of the biggest misconceptions about sex is spontaneous sex is the best, as we often see in movies, and that’s just not true. Notably when it comes to threesome sex. Alternatively, it is suggested to thoroughly discuss everything with your partner – what would make you jealous, whether you want it to happen only once and how you will solve the problem if things go wrong.

Who will be the third person?

You have decided to have a threesome, and this automatically leads to the next important question – when to choose as a third person? People often make mistakes when they bring friends or good acquaintances into this “mix”. Many people want to see a friend as a third person in bed because they trust them. But, very often, only then do things become so complicated, so it is better to look elsewhere, like a friend from a friend, whom none of you knows so well.

What are your expectations?

If you start from the fact that it will be strange and uncomfortable for you, it will likely come true. Everyone involved must be 100 per cent sure of their decision. Agreeing to something like that just to satisfy your partner and her imagination should be avoided because it can easily turn against you later.

So what are the expectations? The healthiest expectations mean you will spice up your sex life, which has fallen into a bit of a routine but has not yet become a problem. If you think this will solve all the problems in the bedroom – you will not.

What are your rules?

Even though you have already invited another person to join you in bed, this by no means that everything is going well. Before you embark on anything, the rules must be clearly defined and accepted – so you need to know what is allowed, and which boundaries should definitely be uncrossed. The most standard rule for women is there is no kissing because it is too intimate. Another golden rule says: if you do not enjoy, you assert the right to abandon everything at any time.

All that matters is that you are kind, especially to the third person. It would be good for you and your partner to agree on a safe word, which you will say at a time when something is not to your liking, to clearly convey to her what you are feeling.