It often happens that someone, when you are very interested, has no emotions towards you, or they are incomparably less than yours. In that case, is everything lost, or is there a chance that something will change? Do not give up, there are chances, you just need to know what and how to do.

Logic without logic

It is therefore up to you to find a way to get your potential partner to have similar emotions and interest in each other. If you succeed, you will want the same things together – a love affair.

Common sense says that you should literally do everything in your power to make something like that happen, show your personal maximum and incorporate your complete personality into the realization of that desire. Simply put, to present yourself in such a light that everyone could characterize you as the best partner when it is possible to meet. But, unfortunately, logic and psyche are not the same and do not go together. Notably when we talk about emotions.

But let’s reverse the situation – let’s say you’re the one who’s less interested in a potential partner. And that he is the one who does everything he knows and can to get you into a relationship. Then ask yourself if that would be nice to you, or maybe irritating? Would you think that the other side doesn’t care what you think, how you feel and what you say? So something like that is out of the question. What can we do then?

The first thing we have to do is apply a way of thinking and reasoning. You need to look at absolutely all the circumstances. A much more important thing than “picking up” a partner — which may not be such a problem — is to think about what a relationship with someone who is not absolutely and completely interested in that relationship will look like. Someone who is lukewarm and not so much focused on the further development of the relationship, its deepening and giving meaning to the whole situation. Ask yourself how you would behave in such a relationship. And felt?

Hot stool

Would you welcome every meeting with joy, or would it be too much mental effort for you? The thing is that if someone is not absolutely interested in a specific relationship, that person will constantly look for a reason to get out of that relationship. The moment a person who is only one per cent more interesting than you appears, the partner will leave. So, the problem is not to make a connection, but how to keep it alive and interesting.

Keep in mind that there are a lot of things you have imagined about that relationship, just your idea of what it should all look like. What’s more, there is a great possibility that you didn’t even think about what that relationship would look like, but that you desired that person at all costs. But if you’ve been thinking about a relationship with someone who isn’t absolutely interested in that relationship, at least not as much as you’re interested in it, it’s likely that you’ve invented or imagined a lot. You have created a projection in your head that has nothing to do with reality. And such things do not exist in real life. These are all things that only happen in your head.

You will have to think again about what a relationship with someone who is not absolutely interested in you will look like. After that, you will not need an answer to the question of how to win that person over for yourself. But let’s think positively and spread optimism.

What logic is – logical?

We have therefore eliminated common sense. In this case, we are going a little against it, and the interesting and contradictory detail is that what we are going to say now seems even more logical! Namely, when we force some things, they will — unless they are not destined to happen at the very beginning — simply fail. We will cite one classic example: you went to the gym and started exercising to the extreme, vigorously and quickly, expecting an instantaneous result and complete satisfaction with what you have achieved. But no, that won’t happen. In such situations, undesirable consequences can occur – rupture of muscles or ligaments. From overload! And you may get so tired from exercising, that you will never want to go to the gym or run again.

However, there is one trick that exercisers do not know about. And that is that the muscle does not grow while exercising, but when it is resting! Namely, you did something to make that muscle responds to your effort at a certain moment. And he will do it when you sleep, study, watch a movie or are in some company. So you don’t press it anymore. In those moments, he adapts to the fact that you will soon treat him in the same way, so in the meantime, he strengthens so that he would not suffer too much effort or inflammation. That is why it increases, muscle fibres become thicker and stronger…

A connection with a love life

Now, draw a parallel with the love life. So, you should not force things, but when you do something, tell someone that you like it or make a move, show interest, then withdraw and leave the person of your desires in a state of rest, so that person wants your presence and the situation you are in. Already offered. So, everything has its own pace and the way it develops. So is love. You need to teach your potential partner to love and desire you. Create the conditions for something like that, withdraw and wait for the right moment.

Do you get a picture in your head of what you need to do to attract someone who is not interested in you at a certain moment or is not interested enough in you? Show that person that you are interested in, take the initiative and withdraw. Then, from time to time, remind that person that you are around, show your bright side, be the best friend you can wish for, become the person your potential partner will want to spend time with, and maybe more than that. So back off again. There is no logic, but it is the most logical. That’s how people work. In marketing, this is called “subtraction”, and between marketing and love, a sign of equality can almost be placed.

What when you retire?

When you retire, you leave room for the person you are interested in to think, to take an interest in you and wish for something more with you. Simply to increase his need for you! It is up to you to make the first move, make it clear what is on your mind, and then withdraw. If a particular person still shows no interest, return to the position of what you need to think about and what you need to become aware of. And that is – what would a relationship with someone who is not interested in you look like at all!

Nobody wants to be in a relationship full of uncertainty and anxiety about what will happen tomorrow, in which you will have to work hard and do your best for that relationship to survive, and the other side to sweeten up and wait for its right opportunity. Keep in mind another fact: if someone who is not interested in you agrees to a relationship because everything else has failed him, because he thinks you are good enough to bridge a period in his life and the like, such a relationship will not survive in the long run. Thus, by withdrawing during the “negotiations”, you distance yourself from potential problems and open the way for the partner to declare what he really wants. The parterre will then show whether his level of interest has increased and equalled yours or simply wants just an approaching adventure that will hurt you tomorrow. And to him, you will become just another river in a row.

Therefore, entering into a relationship with a partner who is not absolutely interested in you works out of logic, but when you look at the whole problem completely realistically, it seems the most logical in the world. Now it’s up to you and your willingness to dedicate yourself to combating this problem. It’s not effortless, but it’s doable.