We have all, at least once in our lives, met directly with the sponsor. Some are so open, that you can see from a distance what is on their mind. Those discreet, more experienced, who know what they are doing, will not “open up” so easily and show you real intentions. Therefore, you need to get acquainted with.

Basic rules of sponsorship

Not bad if your partner is worried about your financial stability, especially if you are in a long emotional relationship and have joint plans for the future.

However, the difference between a sponsor and someone who sees you as the main financier in a relationship is that the sponsor will make fun of you or maybe even leave you if you lose financial stability and the ability to provide them with financial support. A good girl values your income, but the sponsor only values that and doesn’t think a relationship can be good if a man doesn’t have enough money.

Sponsors do not admit they have problems with personal finances

They know you don’t want to see them get an eviction order from the apartment or that they can’t pay the instalment for the car and that you are a good person in a position to help them. But the difference between a sponsor and someone who is going through a difficult financial period is that regardless of their situation, they still make risky decisions regarding money. Did she buy the most expensive shoes or a new bag, despite the unpaid bills? Does she go to expensive restaurants even though she went deep into the red because for God’s sake she “worked hard” and “deserved” it? Or did she not work at all, but you finance all her outings with her friends?

Seek signs of gratitude and generosity

After a few meetings, did she offer to pay the bill? When you pay for dinner or anything, do you say thank you? Does it offer you help in any way? If the answer to all these questions is no, think carefully about what kind of person is sitting across from you.

These are the questions he asks for the first date?

None of these questions should worry you, but if you heard them at the first meeting, your girlfriend is certainly a sponsor:

• How much do you earn per year? The answer to this question helps them calculate what percentage could possibly belong to them.
• Do you have a house and what type of car do you drive? They are trying to determine your total property value and see if a relationship with you is a profitable investment for them.
• How many kids do you have? The answer to this question helps them to estimate how much attention you pay to children or how much time you can devote only to her, as well as how much of your total income you give to children.

Test them with these questions

• What is the best gift you have ever received? The answer to this question simply reveals how much he values material things.
• What is the biggest thing you had that you had to give up? Did you give up something for a higher goal? By answering this question, you will be able to assess whether she is ready to give up something new, to achieve something more later.