What makes a man a good lover in the eyes of women has barely to do with special movements and headlong positions. Let this year pass by re-learning all the steps in sex by focusing on the basics in the bedroom.

Don’t forget the foreplay

Good sex should be unmonotonous but implies unpredictability. You may enjoy penetration for a while and then return to oral sex, G-spot massage, or other manual stimulation. You can take a break and “snack” here and there before returning to action.

Earn oral sex

Tell your partner (with many enthusiasms) that you would like to get down between her legs, and then slowly move towards the goal along the way, gently caressing and kissing her. When you get where you are going, alternately touch her with the tip of your tongue and lips as you circle her vulva. Instead of constantly pressing and wiggling your tongue around your clitoris, try using only the tip of your tongue to irritate its lower part by gently licking it once every ten to fifteen seconds. This helps some women to experience orgasm more easily.

Postpone sexual intercourse

A wet vagina is not a sure sign that she is ready for sex – it is a signal that sexual arousal is growing. Keep stimulating until you feel ready for the right action, or until she asks you to.

Encourage orgasm – in her way

Less than half of women experience an orgasm exclusively through sexual intercourse, regardless of its length, as well as the size and shape of the male sexual organ. You have to understand that most of them do not feel uncomfortable if they need oral sex, hand massage or additional stimulation to reach the climax. Your role is to help her relax, unwind and support her in having to experience an orgasm. If a vibrator is her best friend, welcome him.

Enjoy the time after

Women are seeking confirmation that sex with them was important to them. Hug her, kiss her and caress her where she least expects and try a light facial massage while looking her straight in the eye. What you must not do is turn to the other side and fall asleep instantly. You will deeply disappoint your beloved one.