When people correspond by phone, they can misinterpret some signals that would be clearer in a face-to-face conversation.
PROBLEM 1: you are not sending her enough messages.
In a study of one University, it was discovered that the people who have the greatest tension in a relationship are precisely the angry people with their partners because of insufficient reporting and sending messages.
Technology has become a means of examining relationships. The speed at which you respond is often a parameter of how interested you are.
PROBLEM 2: you are sending too many SMS’s.
A recent study from a prestigious university showed that the more messages a man sends, the less happy he or she is in a relationship.
When a girl sends more messages, it is seen as an additional way to connect in a happy relationship, but when a man is the one who sends messages constantly, then it is a sign that they are avoiding more personal, mutual communication.
PROBLEM 3: you are too attached to the phone.
No one wants to be a third party or stand between you and your phone. One study found that technological means (computers, telephones and TV) have an extremely negative effect on happiness in a relationship.
By allowing technology to interfere or interrupt a conversation, the activity starts, and all the time with your partner can send an unwanted signal to your girlfriend about your current priorities.
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PROBLEM 4: sexting, less texting
According to a recent report from one university, about 50 per cent of men and women send messages and pictures with sexy, provocative content, even when they don’t want to.
Women tend to respond with a message of sexy content to revive the relationship and satisfy the partner, while men feel that this is expected of them and that they are obliged to send sexy pictures and provocative messages.
PROBLEM 5: Serious discussion via messages
A University study found that men often use technology to touch on some key, serious topics with their partners. Certain topics do not need to be discussed over the phone, nor can they be explained well enough and adequately through messages.
Texting: Rules of flirting over messages
It is forbidden to…
Don’t guess
If the message is vague or enigmatic, wait to talk live with the girl before allowing yourself to become suspicious and insecure. Don’t fantasise too much and speculate about the true meaning of the message, but make an appointment right away and talk face-to-face about what’s bothering you.
Don’t use too many abbreviations
It’s okay to write an abbreviation for a word that everyone uses and knows. If you are trying to come up with some new terms on the spot, there is a high probability that you will be misinterpreted.
And who wants to sound like a kid?
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Don’t tease too much
Flirting through messages should be fun and playful, in line with your feelings. But don’t overdo it because you risk making someone angry and insulting.
Don’t send angry messages
You can express a general grudge with Wow, Uh, but call her if you’re angry. Trying to resolve the misunderstanding with 25 characters of expressed anger will turn into even greater chaos and confusion.
Don’t be rude and don’t break up over messages
It may save you time, but breaking up with messages is by no means the manner of a real man. Any kind of bad behaviour and expression in the messages is unacceptable and the risk of the girl breaking up with you and not you with her
It is desirable…
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Send sweet things
We are constantly busy and do not manage to invite dear people or send an e-mail. A short message with I hope you have a nice day, or I think of you can be a very sweet and short reminder that you care about a certain person.
If you are in a long relationship, messages are required
According to a survey by one telecom operator, 15 per cent of people who are in long-term relationships admitted to sending messages more often than being heard on the phone with a partner. Correspondence can create a surprising impression of an important connection when you are away from your partner.
Send a message before the first date…
Approximately, 34 per cent of respondents agreed that they felt much more comfortable if they exchanged a message with the person they were supposed to see before the first meeting. Make pre-date communication fun and optional. Talk about your favourite bands, films, places you go out to and use this as a topic to start the meeting.
Please reply as soon as possible
Since we do not separate from the phone, if you do not respond to the message within an hour, the person who sent you the message will think that you are ignoring it and that you are not interested enough. If you’re in a hurry, at least call to answer later, and if you can’t even send it, then when you can send her a message like “Sorry, I just saw the message.”