To be able to talk about the so-called “soul mate” at all, it is necessary to achieve three levels of compatibility with the partner. What are these levels, to get a good connection that will survive? It is popularly called “kindred spirits.”

The first compatibility would be physical, the second would be intellectual and the third emotional.

Physical compatibility

This compatibility means that the partners are attracted to each other. Tastes are different, so you should not go too deep into this attraction. This means that both partners are in the mood for a sincere hug, kiss and are not repulsive to each other. The level of libido is significant in this segment. It should match with both partners. Because, if one partner has a high libido, want sex more than once, and more often, and the other partner is not so sexually active, there will be problems. Inevitably.

A partner who wants sex more will have to look for it on the other side. And then how does it all end? Of course, cheating and relationship breakdown.

Intellectual compatibility

If you have something to talk about with your partner, then you can say you have intellectual compatibility. This does not necessarily mean that you are both at the level of a professor or a scientist. Average people can be intellectually compatible if they have similar interests and can have constructive conversations about almost any topic.

If the partners are not compatible at this level, they will look for the interlocutor in another place and that, again, leads to fraud and termination of the relationship.

Emotional compatibility

Understanding, compassion, empathy, that you are always there for someone, understanding when someone has terrible days, etc., are emotional compatibility. Even now, one should not be excessively rigid and think that these three compatibilists are the only ones who make up a soul mate. There is a fourth!

Spiritual compatibility

That aspect would be spiritual. This aspect is not material and cannot be explained just like that. He feels. That’s when we have a fantastic connection with someone when we say that there is chemistry when we understand each other very well from the first moment, it’s like we’ve known each other all our lives.

In such situations, everything goes incredibly smoothly, perfectly nice and well. That would be the spiritual aspect.

Honeymoon

At the very beginning of a relationship, people often pretend, presenting themselves as they absolutely are not. This period of a relationship is called “honeymoon” because people act as if everything is perfect. In that period, in fact, we do not know the person we are in a relationship with well, but we only face his best sides, virtues. After a while, when the magical honeymoon passes, only then do we begin to meet the person as he really is.

That is why that moment is a bit problematic. Why? Because it is only after a certain time for someone you consider to be your soulmate that you become aware of who that person really is. Therefore, we cannot even predict what lies behind the honeymoon period, when the partner shows his right, we can freely say an uglier face.

How many kindred spirits are there?

If we can discover all these aspects in opposed people, in some more in some less, it means that we can also find the fourth aspect in different people. If, on the other hand, all four aspects are found in one and the same person, then it is soul mate! But what would all this in fact signify? Altogether, there is not just one soul mate, but many, many more of them. So, if it seems to you that there is only one person in this world who is just for you, then you are wrong. There are more, you just need to pay attention to a few details. Combinatorics is not that complicated, at least not in this case. Think about it!