You see, the rules that follow are ripe for the guillotine, but if you turn around, you will realize that nothing else is so in line with the culture in which we live. Well, as long as you get there. Everything that applies to him also applies to her. Women love guys. Men love bitches. What does that really mean today? Want to check? OK. Sold!
Relaxed…
A word that is found today in every third sentence of an average educated speaker. Something like a mantra or the supreme postulate of our time. It is valid for all spheres of life because the culture we live in is a “cool culture”. Excessive engagement and commitment to anyone, or anything, does not lead to anything good. And therefore, relaxed… In relationships, this is just a rule of gold worth. Any sign of excessive commitment, and especially emotion, makes its wearer less interesting. At a time when it is valued exclusively visually, conquest is the most widespread hobby. “How much do you like me?” Is the guiding principle which, when it receives a secure and several times certified confirmation, is satisfied. But with that satisfaction, any other interest ceases. Moreover, a new target is being sought. That is why the so-called “cool attitude” is the most desirable if you want the relationship to last. When a person across the street is not quite sure how it is reflected in your eyes, or how much you “really care”, they will be provoked, encouraged, motivated to continue to deal with you. It is not excluded that he loves you for that very reason. Adherence to this rule maintains a “quiet fire” in the relationship and prevents satiety, loss of interest of partners, lack of challenges and a sad situation “everything has already been said, let’s move on”
Hot…
Sex is the most important thing in modern relationships, especially in their first decades. It’s just like that. Aesthetic appearance, beauty, youth, sexual skills – are the most dominant principles of modern culture. Look like billboard models and make love like on a movie screen. Maybe all this makes sex a kind of spiritless spectacle, during which the partners care more about their “super presentation” than about real enjoyment, but, no matter what, think about it.
Make love like a porn star and be sure to do the right thing – your relationship will be successful. And then, if you are not one hundred per cent in that style, that is. You still distinguish between truly valuable and current instant principles, over time you relax and begin to establish a connection between sex and what you really feel. Deal with your partner’s affinities, her secret and spoken desires, as well as ways to harmonize as much as possible in all of this. But never neglect sex. Keep the fire going. Your biggest enemy in bed is a habit, pattern. Get away from it. Block predictability, well-established scenario. And of course, if I’ve already mentioned it, have sex in huge quantities.
New…
Gone are the days when partners, confident in their love, went in front of the registrar and then talked about the colour of the crib for the newborn and the wallpaper for the children’s room. Now it takes a lot more for the two to agree this is it! Why? It’s simple. Our crazy weather constantly tells us that there is a lot more that we haven’t tried, found, tried.
It’s as if, immersed in the TV screen, we have the impression that we are constantly missing something. New horizons of hedonism, unknown valleys of enjoyment, and many, many more pastimes. That’s why modern partners measure a thousand times before they cut. If you secretly, or maybe still vaguely, want to “spend a century” with her, although the sure guarantees for that are also a thing of the past, research together. What does it mean? To begin with, make sure you similarly imagine the future. Do you maintain the same expectations? If not, have fun a little more while you like it. If the answer is affirmative, uh, that’s just a scary situation. Relaxed, we said at the beginning. Take a breath and embark on an adventure. Deal with the points that connect you and look for new ones. What can it all be – the choice is endless? Travel, career investment, socializing, parties, food, philosophy, Kamasutra, fashion, fitness, filmmaking… By enjoying the things, they have in common. Partners achieve even greater intimacy. But don’t dwell on the familiar. Look for a new one.