Experts in the field of building and maintaining relationships, explain why a little mental physique makes a man very sexy.
Every now and then someone asks a question from which your eye starts to play, limbs are blocked and tingles pass through the body. “Are you aware of how fast you’re walking right now?” is one of those questions. “Do you have a second to talk?” is another.
Questions, questions…
But a question hardens a woman’s heart to the one who asked it for all time: “When will we see each other again?” Last summer, the girl went out with a guy she really liked. At the first meeting, they went for a drink. He wrote to me next: “When will we see each other again?” The question still hadn’t infuriated me; it was sweet to me that he directly showed interest.
The girl told him that she was free next Tuesday and they made a plan to go to dinner. The next day he wrote a message again: “When will we see each other again?” The girls began to play around. She told him I had nothing for the weekend. “Great,” he said, “let’s do something.”
Approach to meetings
The girl in question belongs to the generation that watched “Bachelor” and that is why I like an active approach to meetings. I went out for a drink with someone many times and it’s always refreshing to do something different. It is not necessary to go for a bungee on Singapore beach, as happened in the movie “Bachelors”, but it is nice to have an interesting answer when your friends ask you what you did. I would literally accept anything he suggested to me except heroin.
The trick with active going out does not lie in what is being done; most active outings are a bit dumb. The thing is, someone was planning something with you. Some men feel this intuitively. And they are, without exception, in happy relationships or marriages with women who are out of their league.
What do they really want?
My man did not suggest “something”. He wanted all the benefits of seeing me without having to bother planning at all. He was happy to take the time, which is the easiest part of planning a date, but he didn’t want to get involved in a really stressful part. We would be locked in a passive struggle, where each of us would try to shift the burden of planning to the other until one of us died. I answered him by stating in the message the things I like to do: museums, stand-up clubs, zoos, saunas, etc. I felt like a math teacher who wanted to lead a student to the obvious answer – “Are two and two four, 40 or 400?” – except that there was no wrong answer.