You need to know this: your girlfriend would probably realize them if you just asked her. After all, a survey of 10,000 people found that both men and women have five identical top fantasies. Now you will see what she wants, why she wants it and how you can achieve it to be both satisfied.
To stimulate yourself as you watch her
80% want to touch themselves while you watch (and learn).
What’s on: It’s the best way to show you how much she likes it. The fact that she turns you on while giving herself an orgasm makes her feel incredibly sexy and that increases her pleasure.
Take action: During foreplay, take her hand and place it under yours. And then gently move your and her hand towards her clit. Remove your hand and encourage her to continue to touch while you shift your attention to the rest of her body. And then get away and enjoy the show. Want to help while still watching? “Satisfy yourself at the same time. It is one of the biggest visual ignitions for women.
To let you dominate
66% want you to handcuff them. 74% want to slap them on the ass during sex, and 63% want you to pull their hair during sex.
What ignites it: Society encourages women to see themselves as objects of worship; by withdrawing, subduing, and being speculated allowing her to express it.
Bonus: A sharp stab on her ass can stimulate nerve endings in her vagina.
Take action: During the relaxation session, gently grab her by the wrists and pin them above her head. Use your free hand to explore her body. Next: tie her wrists with a strip of paper towels (knowing they are tight is convincing enough for those who shoot at it for the first time). When it gets too weak, switch to a scarf and progress towards handcuffs and whatever you are already dreaming about.
To have sex in public
As many as 51% want to have sex on a plane, 64% want to have sex with you in a public place, 43% want to have a secret sexual encounter in your office.
What fires her: Sex in public makes a woman self-aware of the highly erotic energy she possesses. The fear of being caught irritates your senses, allowing you to focus on the sexual experience.
Get in on the action: Take a risk in the safety of your bedroom. Replace dirty stories with a voyeuristic scene (an expensive hotel room or a glass attic) and then tell her that you know she likes to be watched and that you have left the curtains open. She will be ready for a public place soon.
To make a home video – a private one
About 40% are ready to make a sexy video with you, and 72% want to watch porn in your company.
What’s on fire: Do you think women can’t be attacked visually? One study showed that women reached the peak of arousal after two minutes of erotic footage. The fact is she is not a porn novice: of the women surveyed, 40% admitted to watching porn or visiting porn websites when they are alone.
Get in on the action: Don’t start with hardcore titles. Start with a delicious but highly erotic movie.
To invite a third person to join to
A quarter of respondents want a threesome with you and another woman, and 81% want you to use sex toys on them. Around 47% of them want to visit a strip club with you.
What happened: The reasons are simple. She wants to fulfil your fantasies and more importantly, the more stimulation, the better the orgasm. According to one study, combined oral, manual and genital intercourse increase her chances of an orgasm that will blow her away by 89 per cent.
Get in on the action: Use sexy toys to create a threesome fantasy. Explore further: visit a strip club together. If you both like to watch each other, enjoy lap dancing, then it’s time to talk about moving to the next level. But mention all the flaws – at all times. Sharing with others can ruin your relationship.