How to become a person ready to cope with all life’s challenges, and at the same time always come out as a winner, is a question that has always bothered people. Here, we will try solving that dilemma for you as well.

Remind yourself of the transience of things

Keeping in mind that nothing lasts forever, you become less attached and it becomes easier to accept the facts when things change or when you lose what you love. When we are tied to a thing like crystal glass, we should keep in mind what it actually is. That way we will remain completely calm when and if it breaks. It should be the same with people.

If you kiss your child, brother or friend, keep in mind that you love a mortal, and that nothing you love is your property, that it has been given to you for a certain period – longer or shorter – and not forever.

Consider everything borrowed

Your car, your body, your status… you can stay without it in a single second. You may work overtime to make money on all material things, but they can disappear at any time. Fate or death can take them away from you without any notice. Look at everything you have acquired as if it were lent to you. Be aware of that, as well as the fact that the “lender” will at some point ask for all these things back. When? At an unknown time. Then the accident will hit you with less force, and you will be able to deal with it far better.

Accept and love everything that happens

At the age of 67, after hard work in the laboratory, Thomas Edison returned home. After dinner, a man with urgent news arrived at his house. A few miles away, a fire broke out in the research camp. Firefighters failed to contain the fire. The flames rose high, threatening to destroy the empire that Edison had built all his life.

When Edison arrived at the scene of the accident, he immediately told his son to go get his mother and all her friends, because he would never see such a fire again. The next day he began rebuilding what the fire had destroyed. The point of the story is to accept events that you cannot influence. It is better to accept them than to fight against every little thing that happens. If we resist reality, then we will suffer. If that is the will of nature, then so be it.

We have to accept there is something bigger than us and that we cannot control everything that happens. We should adjust to what happens to us. Because, destiny leads the willing, and it follows the unwilling. It’s like a metaphor about a dog tied to a stroller. The dog can enjoy the journey and run lightly behind the stroller, or he can stubbornly resist it while she is dragging him along anyway. If we resist what happens, then we will suffer. So, accept reality and adjust.

Voluntary discomfort

Practice occasionally to make yourself uncomfortable. The goal is not to punish oneself, but to exercise self-control. This exercise will reduce your appetite for material things, increase your gratitude for what you have, and prepare you to act effectively when unpleasant situations really arise.

Choose courage and calmness instead of anger

Anger is short-lived madness because an angry man has no self-control. He forgets about kinship. He is deaf to reason and advice, he is excited by trifles, and he does not know what truth and lies are. If you get angry, you will do the most harm to yourself. That is why it is best to reject the first signs of anger and stress at the beginning and resist their beginnings. A real man does not give way to anger and dissatisfaction.

Take action with reserve

It is a classic stoic trick to keep calm. When you plan to do something, add “if nothing stops me”. This will help you to accept the direct results of your actions. This is a great way to maintain personal confidence. Besides, you are so willing to accept that things may not go the way you originally envisioned.

Negative visualization

This is an imagination exercise in which you anticipate bad things. And it prepares you to stay calm and deal effectively with anything that may happen to you. Before you start doing something, ask yourself “what could go wrong”? It is a training of emotional resilience. This will reduce dissatisfaction if something goes against what you hoped for.

Eliminate unnecessarily

If you are carefully looking for lasting peace, work a little less. Do only what is important, gets rid of everything unimportant. Don’t waste time on something that will not bring anything good to you or others, nor will it make them satisfied. Ask yourself what is most important in your life. And give it a key priority.

What stands in the way instantly becomes the way

In every challenge, there is an opportunity for growth. No matter what life throws at us, we have a choice. Will we be blocked by challenges, or will we fight them? We can see obstacles, and they can block us, or we can see opportunities and move forward. Adverse circumstances are a springboard to reach a higher level as a person. Use obstacles as fuel that will allow you to move on.